A poll from Pemco Insurance finds that Pacific Northwesterners subscribe to the “no new friends” philosophy. According to the findings, released in April, 40% of residents of Oregon and Washington told Pemco that it is "not too important, or even not at all important, for them to make new friends.”On the other side, only 24% said “it’s very or extremely important to make new friends.” The Seattle-Times calls this phenomenon the "Seattle Freeze,” which is interesting given that the Pemco results show Oregonians are even less interested in new friends than Washingtonians.According to Pemco, 27% of Washington residents said making new friends was extremely or very important to them, while only 21% of Oregon residents gave the same answer. And 38% of Washington residents said it was not too or not at all important for them to make new friends, whereas 42% of Oregon residents said the same thing.As a person who almost exclusively hangs out with … [Read more...] about Oregonians aren’t here to make (new) friends
Makes new friends
By CAROLYN HAX (Adapted from a recent online discussion.)Dear Carolyn: I would like to understand how people make new friends when they are in their mid-50s. Where are they going, or what activities are they doing, to make and keep interesting friends? What’s the secret I have not learned? I believe I am flexible, adventurous, a good listener, creative, outgoing and fun. I am interested in their lives. I want to know: Why they chose the field they are in? Why they live in this area? What are their hobbies? Are politics important to them? What types of food do they like? I do not ask all these questions at once but over time to show interest in their lives. At the gym, people seem to be with people they know or working out by themselves. On group hikes, I have found people are with people they already know and do not seem to be interesting in adding to their circle of friends.-- Making FriendsHax: The older I get and the more relocations I have behind me, the more I believe habit … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: Is it just me or is it nearly impossible to make new friends after age 50?
Leigh Guidry Lafayette Daily Advertiser Published 4:22 PM EDT Oct 29, 2018 An event at work last week combined some of my favorite things — crafting and meeting new friends. We invited subscribers to a $10 wreath-making workshop at The Daily Advertiser. Now I have five new friends, and we all have new wreaths. Kathy Mills signed up not long after she moved here from Atlanta. She's not a crafter, but wanted to try something new and meet new people in her new place. I love all of that. Jan and Jennifer Hiatt had an impromptu mother-daughter crafting night with us. To celebrate their son (and grandson), who is wrapping up boot camp for the Marine Corps, they brought a few of their own items and paired them with red and black ribbon we had ready for Christmas wreaths. Gaylen Delcambre and Priscilla Deville made fall wreaths using a lot of the same materials, but each looked unique. Casey Ardoin covered hers with green Mardi Gras beads that give the impression of … [Read more...] about Making wreaths was cool. Making new friends was cooler.
There’s an old saying that says “Make new friends but keep the old, one is Silver and the other is Gold.” In other words that means that old and new friends are both equally important to us. While this may not be true now, this is the mentality that modern day African Americans must have if we intend to be successful and survive as a people going into the future. Friendship must allow all of the different age generations of our people to bond together. Whether you are with the baby boomers age group, the generation X group or any other young age group, you must reach outside the comfort zone of your age group to extend your friendship zone. I can assure you, that it is not an act of disrespect toward yourself or your age group of friends when you choose to widen your scope of friends to include people of another age group. The significance and positive advantages of all the different age groups being “together friends”, definitely makes us stronger as a … [Read more...] about Make New Friends But Keep The Old Ones
Donn Trenner, 91, estimates that two-thirds of his friends are dead. “That’s a hard one for me,” he said. “I’ve lost a lot of people.” As we age, we not only lose friends, but face the daunting task of making new friends. And it turns out that friendship plays a critical role in health and well-being, according to recent findings from the Stanford Center on Longevity Sightlines Project. Socially isolated elders face health risks comparable to those of smokers, and their mortality risk is twice that of obese individuals, according to the study. Being disengaged from friends, family members and neighbors can make building new friendships even harder, said Laura Carstensen, director of the Stanford Center on Longevity. “If we’re disengaged, it’s going to be harder to make new friends,” she said. “Friendship is not to be taken for granted,” said Trenner, a pianist. “You have to invest in friendship.” Even … [Read more...] about How to make new friends as you lose the old