By CAROLYN HAX, SYNDICATED COLUMNIST Updated 1:12 pm CDT, Sunday, July 29, 2018 Photo: Nick Shepherd, Getty Images Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I am pregnant with a child conceived with a donor egg and my husband's sperm. I also have a young son. It has been a long, complicated and painful process of secondary infertility, and I was lucky to find an excellent therapist who helped immensely. Now that I am finally pregnant, I am trying to figure out how, when and whether to disclose. I believe the child has the right to know his or her genetic heritage. Secrecy is not healthy. On the other hand, we have close family members who will treat this child differently than his or her brother and other relatives. These family members have a proven record of unequal and inequitable treatment that is very hurtful. This is not your garden-variety, … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: She worries her child, conceived with a donor egg, will face discrimination from family
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By CAROLYN HAX, SYNDICATED COLUMNIST Updated 1:19 pm CDT, Sunday, July 29, 2018 Photo: John Lund, Getty Images Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I had a wonderful best friend for years. She moved across the country after college, we stayed close for a long while, then started to drift. She moved back four years ago. We tried to hang out a couple of times. It never happened. While complex, the biggest problem was me. Always shy, I was dealing at the time with an undiagnosed anxiety disorder, my life plans had imploded, I was diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease, I put on a ton of weight, and I lost my grandmother and uncle close together. It was the lowest point of my life. Feeling sad and worthless, I withdrew into a small and lonely existence. Recommended Video: Now Playing: This past week, readers have written in to us to discuss the role of national columnists … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: Will ghosted best friend accept apology years later?
By CAROLYN HAX, SYNDICATED COLUMNIST Updated 1:23 pm CDT, Sunday, July 29, 2018 Photo: RapidEye, Getty Images Dear Carolyn: I don't know how to help my troubled sister. She has been fighting the world since she was a little girl. She is so unhappy and stops speaking to friends and family members, including me, on a rotating basis because we have disappointed her or stood up to her. It is always someone else's fault and she doesn't see herself as the common denominator. I have learned I can't fix this for her and any advice I provide puts me in the hot seat for an hour or so of verbal beating. I love her because she is my sister and I won't abandon her as several of her close friends and family have. I know it is hard to be her and I am sad this is her life. Recommended Video: Now Playing: A woman who was really missing her twin sister decided to give her sibling a nice surprise by traveling to Texas … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: Standing by a sister with mental illness
By CAROLYN HAX, SYNDICATED COLUMNIST Updated 1:24 pm CDT, Sunday, July 29, 2018 Photo: Stadtratte, Getty Images Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I read you as calling ghosting necessary at times, yet other times calling it cowardly. How do I know if I'm just enjoying being the victim -- and the person I'm dealing with is not "wrong" -- or if I am truly being abused, thereby needing strict boundaries? -- Stumped Recommended Video: Now Playing: Here a few of the juiciest tidbits sources shared with Reader’s Digest, and a few more we found on Reddit. Media: Southern Living I don't call ghosting necessary except in the very narrow circumstance of abuse. If you're in danger, then you get out however you can. Virtually everyone else, every non-abuser, deserves some last word, even if it's to say: "Do not contact me again; I won't respond." It is cowardly to leave people … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: The rules of ghosting
By CAROLYN HAX, SYNDICATED COLUMNIST Updated 12:45 pm CDT, Sunday, August 5, 2018 Photo: Sesame, Getty Images Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I just spent the weekend in the company of my boyfriend's brother, who mimicked/mocked me, belittled almost all my actions, and made fun of my chronic health condition. My boyfriend says this is just "George's' sense of humor," and that I should ignore it and not be so sensitive. I experienced this as abusive, and believe my boyfriend should have spoken up on my behalf, even by calmly stating, "That's enough, George." My solution is to limit my participation in future family gatherings, which bothers my boyfriend. What do you recommend? -- Mocked Recommended Video: Now Playing: Dove Cameron’s got it all. An amazing voice, stellar career and of course, an adorable boyfriend. In a tweet late last night, Dove made everyone else green … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: Mocked by boyfriend’s brother